When agreement cannot be reached the Court is there to assist you in recording arrangements for the children. However, the Court cannot replace effective communication between you and your ex-partner. This is something that will need to be prioritised and worked upon by you both in the interests of your children.
Within any court proceedings the parties are encouraged to attend a Separated Parents Information Programme (SPIP) which can often help see the effects of separation on the children and provide tools to help assist with communication and co-parenting in the future.